And I understood that too because I thought it was okay to be angry, but I still don't get angry with him when I'm mad. I guess I'm J. a prude, then, because I believe there are better places to hang out than bars and that if you are married or committed and have children, your time is better spent with them. So if you know your husband goes to the townie bar, gets all excited to see the regulars, cheers when people walk in, picks ladies up so they can feel girly, and flirts, then yes, you shouldn't feel bad to do the same as long as you are both feeling happy about it and having fun. He TEXTS YOU while he's OUT WITH THE BOYS?! It's not that we can't go out, we J. don't want to. A know a few guys who don't do that. Do I do that without my SO? Nice. Now if he went to a place like that by himself I woudl worry something was up for 2 reasons. Here^s what I got from what I read: 1. Clubs and bars are places to find one night stand and occasional sex partners. You have to put trust into each other. Enjoy those evenings when he is out and look forward to the next time you see him. #2 The desperado. Of course I was a little disappointed but then he got mad and I had to accept it because I didn't want to lose him. You likely question yourself asking whether it's something about you . Sorry if I'm completely out of line, it's J. that I've known so many people who've ruined their relationships over situations like this. FOr M. it will always depend on trust. What does it mean when a man call & text you several times every day eventh My Boyfriend doesn't like if I call him from his name. Have a little faith. I am one of those guys who doesn't drink often so when I do I also end up on a couch somewhere but I have good friends who protect me .won't let me drive etc.. If it becomes a constant thing of going ot the bars all the time and it eats into your time with him, which is what my bf wants to do, then you may have something to worry about. Did I go to local bars and hang out and have all the fun you mentioned above when I was single? If they're going out far more often than they ever used to, it might not be a good sign, relationship-wise. It would be one thing if your SO is telling you where you can and cannot go. ***My hubby used to get mad when we'd be out for drinks together and he'd go to the bathroom and come back and find a guy talking to M.. NO. Tech Organizer. I always get the excuse of the phone dying or it fell but yet I can see he is online on Facebook etc it's always the weekend that his battery has died when he's out I don't blame you for stressing I have this situation every weekend it's at the point where I've had enough. (We are both 29 btw) When I expressed my feelings of disagreement, he told me I'm being insane. Our relationship will never be more than friends. I have not a single reason to? 14. I am the same way. He has female friends too, but unless its a large group, I am not ok with that and he understands that. The bar is really not my husbands thing, but I go out with my friends without him and he is cool with it. Emotional or physical affairs are not okay in my book. Um, not if you don't let it. We know where the lines are where each of us are comfortable with and neither one of us has ever crossed it. You don't want to make it awkward and post up at the bar, quietly waiting. Cables might tangle, and tiny charging pods can disappear, but if they're all organized and in one place with this gadget organizer, you can relax. Do what you feel is right. Track his every move know what he is doing all the time put a tracking chip on him shut up!! Yes, A LOT in his profession. We are individuals sharing the same goals in relationship. If it isn't, then do what you want. But for M. it would be fine. Am I crazy for being upset? I'm married. Women shouldn't have to act like Jason Bourne going to crazy lengths to avoid attention just to have a drink and listen to a band without harassment. Wife of 8 years straddled and flirted with my friend last night while drunk What did you do guys if you really really miss someone but you dont want to text or call him? But understand that it is an opportunity for something to happen because you are specifically putting yourself in that situation. However, I understand about being concerned that he gets drunk, maybe has problems w/self-control.. 1. But it got old. honey, if you are not doing anything you are not sopossed to to, then dont give it another thought. 613 posts, read 1,015,221 . My hubs knows M. well enough not to be threatened. It wouldn't matter who it was it would be that they don't want to be around us that would bug M., ya know? It is trying to control each other because deep down you don't trust each other to behave in a party environment. The alternative is to . He knows he can trust M.. Maintaining organization for your electronics is very enjoyable. wha NC for 4 months, ex didn't send me a text call or Anything for my Bday, tog She only talks, or texts in response to my call/text. We've agreed to be monogamous not by default but because it feels right for us. But when it seems to be an all night thing and it's an always and never, those are telling signs that something isn't normal. The second time he disappointed me was when he got so angry at me because he had an argument with his friends. What I'd really prefer though is to go out with a few drinks with HIM! That's right. I do not drink but I go to have girl time and chat. I can understand how those people who *enjoy* drinking, will likely go out often to do it. Learn to trust your partner. He has fun and I know he isn't sleeping around with his female friends when he goes. Has she always been that way, or is this a recent development? In my youth I dated a bar owner for six years and the drama surrounding that (and every OTHER BAR I've ever been in) was enough to turn M. away from that scene for life. Tell him you also have a good time there even when you cannot wait to see him again. There's really very little I can do to *make* him act with integrity and honor, besides doing so myself. Me and my boyfriend have talked about how we felt several times that we trust eachother so much to the point where if i dont talk to him for three days and i know hes at some crazy parties, i wont feel so worried and we trust each other so much that we both openly said that we could kiss other people if we wanted because truly we both know it wouldnt be real and that we love each other. And just a little hint (whens playing games-such as baseball- you cant just change the rules to benefit yourself). When youre in a relationship you dont just change the rules. My boyfriend goes out, spends time with his friends, and drinks on the weekends. this has been posted a long time ago and i hope you're not with him anymore. before we were married my wife went out with her friends every couple of weeks to the bar seen. I don't control my husband. If im with someone i trust fine, go have fun. The premiere was later recognized as the all-time most successful cable series launch, with DVR viewers the . But just letting your SO know where youre going or what youll be doing is very simple. If you want to keep this guy then you will have to learn to give him his freedom. Keep being yourself, good relationships are hard to come by, and people are only jealous of yours :). I did. Feeling down or depressed is a common experience for many people at some point in their lives. Do I think it's "wrong" for other ladies and men to do that? And I suppose it would depend on that. Life doesnt begin at 30, dont let anyone tell you different, I feel hurt and embarassed bec he doesnt reply to my text. This would allow him to distance himself from unpleasant feelings and dissociate from the discomfort of underlying mental problems. My boyfriend wants his friend, should we break up? Id quit that game and never play again. Just calming say you will be "going out tonight/the weekend" for some fun with friends, he can enjoy himself with his. I would personally feel like a prisoner if he didnt "allow" it and would find it unhealthy. Anyone that cant handle that isnt ready for a real relationship. And I have to laugh at that "allowed to go out without your boyfriend" line you posted.sounds like that fellow wouldn't have been good boyfriend material, even if you had been single! Well, amazing how a six year old post gets a reply but upon reading, as much as six months ago someone needed clarification. 2023 ZIFF DAVIS CANADA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. I have seen some of the married women that do. Is it okay for a boyfriend or girlfriend to go out to bars or clubs without you twice a week? Even then hes moody and doesnt pay me much attention. I tell it like it is. He is very trusthworthy and honest, etc. As I mentioned above, he may just need some time to himself. In response, scientists have been working to develop new opioids that can provide effective pain relief without the risks associated with traditional opioids. "And if . Nah, I've never hung out at a bar alone. After extensive research, he discovered he could create dramatic changes to his health simply focusing on 3 things that sabotage our body as we age. that is the last message i want to send. Just enjoy life and enjoy the relationship, take it day by day and go with the flow. Nothing controlling about it. I like how you worded it. To M. that is not a friendship. So I decided to grab a drink at the local dive bar that I love. If it was only when he went out to have a bit of fun and didn't text through the evening, no problem. A "spouse" is an adult. Again, there are exceptions. Norris says he started learning about this revolutionary new method when he noticed most of the supplements he was taking did little or nothing to support his health. Don't Say Bad Things. explicit permission. My husband occasionally goes out with friends for a round of golf and then to a bar afterwards, I've never really given it much thought but I also trust him and am not worried. Does that mean I don't take my hubby's feelings (and he takes mine) into consideration? He he knows your always in he feels safe. "There's nothing wrong with getting drinks with coworkers or going out for a guys/girls night with friends," Herring says. Short answer: yes, it's okay. But that does not mean, you have to live under a rock. But even if that's your case, can you honestly say you don't have a hand in it? try it, be honest, truthful, and if its meant to be, its meant to be. Luckily for us both, neither of us are the 'bar/club going on a regular basis' kind of people. In the past he would ask me if he can go out with his friend to the bar because he knew I get very nervous. (Even if we've J. He just wants you to look the other way. Don't listen to the people commenting below they are giving you the advice, they "think" is right. Now, like I said..if this changes, and he starts wanting to go more, like my bf is, and it cuts into your alone time..then yeah. Like myself. Now I don't know how he would feel or a possible future boyfriend would feel. I just know in my heart, I cannot be in another situation like I was with my ex, ever again. Anyways, that is the past, but you know how the past has a way of coming back and biting you in the behind! Yes. No. Not just change the rule without saying something and then she can choose to keep playing or quit. Often she would be out till 2am or so.. WE did just make up from a fight couple days ago. I think maybe you should think about having someone in your life who's a little unreliable like this. Even if you don't actually go out. I on the other hand don't know a single woman who is attracted to other women. to get more tequila photos without a doubt. Its not in my personality to go to a bar alone.but I have gone out to the bar with some girlfriends and/or my SIL. Troy loves M. and only M., he wants only M., you put him in a room with naked women he would have the most uncomfortable look on his face. Ahhhh, the Casino has a hold on him. To us, our family is our priority and they come first. The "Cool" way to think. Ok, he went out without your permission, I mean, without notifying you. 2. Go with your gut on this one. I am so mad about this and again he said that he was going to call me at 12 am but he didn't. Its putting trust into the OTHER person. If after talking about it you still object to him going to strip clubs, that's okay! I feel for you too. Started January 19, By But that's J. M.! Even though I know he wouldn't just the thought of my boyfriend getting drunk worries me that he will make a bad decision. "But if your partner has started going out more and leaving you at home, that could indicate that they've got one foot out the door. He does not even care if I go dancing cause he knows who I am going home to. since I'm an adult no one LETS or ALLOWS M. to do anything. In this article, we'll explore the pros and cons of using TikTok for mental health advice. However, I also don't see a problem with going to lunch with a coworker from the opposite sex as long as it was completely platonic. Seinfeld (/ s a n f l d / SYNE-feld) is an American television sitcom created by Larry David and Jerry Seinfeld.It aired on NBC from July 5, 1989, to May 14, 1998, over nine seasons and 180 episodes.It stars Seinfeld as a fictionalized version of himself and focuses on his personal life with three of his friends: best friend George Costanza (Jason Alexander), former girlfriend Elaine . New episodes air Mondays on Facebook. I love my wife dearly, but I wouldn't go to a bar or restaurant with a member of the opposite sex alone. As far as I know he doesn't hug other women, pick them up or flirt with themif he did I would have a problem with that, because it's not the type of guy I'd want to be married to. Warning signs that your male partner is emotionally controlling you. Gd luck to everyone in the same situation and i hope you are stronger than me when you bite the bullet and call it a day!Please dont msg anything horrible back, i need support not a ribbing! I don't understand why everyone flipped out about single people going out together. S H said it great, however i would add that the only way i go out is either with "the girls" or with my husband. And yes, we've been hit and and continued to be bothered even AFTER we've told them we're married. It is all about intent. Every hour of his free time doesn't have to be dedicated to you. FLirt but come home to M.. You know? Started December 23, 2022. Ya know, and I think this is important, if someone I hung out with gave Troy a bad vibe I would not question his vibe, I would stop hanging out with that person. She dumped me for a guy she met there one night. Big difference. To an insecure girlfriend, she might assume guys' nights consist of heading to the strip club, then going to a seedy rub-and-tug afterward. It doesn't seem like he is sticking around for you. "I guess it depends from one man to another. Call/text/in person, etc.? All this woman wants to know is if her boyfriend is going out, because when you care for someone, it just nice to know. I don't say that he should stay with me all the time, but he can send me a message from time to time. You still are a person, apart from your spouse. I go with the women, some bring husbands and there are occasionally some of thier male friends that wander in. Does that make sense? I kinda had a feeling you were probably like meaffected negatively by a past relationship. Started Saturday at 12:43 AM, By He even texts me when he is out, and calls or texts when he gets home. Going To A Bar Alone Is Cool If It's Just Temporary. Now sometimes I will go out ot a bar with some of my friends. jwrunner81 I see both sides here. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. I do the same thing for a girls night out. Hi dan,my girlfriend and I are together for 2 years now,and its the 3rd time that she has been to the club without me,she even says that she doesn't want any commitments now,where as I do,During these 2 years we haven't been to a club together,and I don't know what's going on behind my back,but she goes with her elder girl cousins to . We didn't speak since 6. I could understand drinking a little too much, but once you reach the level of passing out that borderlines alcoholism. Boyfriends are different than husbands. Or am I just being silly? Of course I do, but the first time he says "I forbid you" is the time he gets a laugh in his face. When he normally calls and then he doesn't is when he is out having fun. We are comfortable with each other and trust each other 100%!! Sex is often a part of healthy, committed relationships, so if you two aren't getting intimate anymore, that might be an indication that something's not right. But if you notice that these things are happening more frequently, whether it's you or your partner who's doing them, they could be red flags that all is not well. And adding alcohol to the mix definately doesn't help. but i would if i wanted to. He is free to go where he wants and so am I but we make choices to do and go places that honor our marriage and protect it at all costs. Right now, it seems he's being attentive to your needs. My husband (these days) wants M. to be happy and encourages M. to get time out doing things I love. No brainer. I did have one guy ask M. to dinner after the annoying compliments you hear at such establishments and I replied that I had a boyfriend and he kept talking but kept asking how I was allowed to go out without my boyfriend. He might also be addicted to such acts, or have a compulsion to self-soothe' through intercourse. See how he likes it. I don't mind him enjoying his time alone he needs time to be a man, be with his guys, working on his cars,fishing etc. Needless to say, the abuse of such substances can negatively affect decision-making. So try not to take it personally and give him the space he needs. To M., it isn't a point of trusting my husband or not. If not, he'll just call you the next morning and explain his night.. you know? Also we fully disclose everything before we even do something so we will ask the other. Assistir Sheffield Utd X Tottenham - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. Third is that you seem to be insecure deep down about your bf's party animal past and don't trust him. he'll want me to stay in touch with him when I go outbut then once he goes out its MIA for hours and hours. to M. if there is an air of "i am free, i do what i want, hey you're interesting, i'll talk to you!" I wouldn't want to tempt her or her M.. 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