what to text him when he disappears

And then I will have to be strong to not become his victim again. I texted when I got home and told him I really enjoyed the night. Genuine respect, friendship, emotional connection is important when you first meet someone you might like. I have made a promise to myself from this day on to stay away from men who text. I will admit I have been sucked into this BS a few times, but now I know the red flags. I have always held women in esteem and consideration and I never want to be in a position of hurting a woman! Should I try to reach out when Im Im tired of being uncertain and heart broken! lets just take it as a good lesson and move on. I was so good to him and we were just fine. I said I find it hard to believe any woman finding this acceptable and he said listen..trust me Ive been through this before (with his past girlfriends) and they reacted the same way. Have you tried calling him? Am I being naive? Bye. We binge watched one of our shows that we always had. I hate the fading act awfull! 3 weeks ago when I was in the hospital for a week after suffering my first seizures while at work, my ghost had had enough. Hes just 21 (going to turn 22 this year) so all i say myself is hes not mature enough or have the courtesy to let go in a nicer way. Any ideas on how I should continue to handle this? He pushed for a commited relationship around month 4, but also said he never wants kids or marriage. I met this guy and we instantly hit it off, went out for about a month everything was great we texted constantly throughout the day, everyday, then hed call me usually, everyday. Went 2 weeks with no contact at all. It is not cool, not cool for most of us, but beacuse we seem to tolerate, now it has become common practice for men to leave without any accountability on his part. I dont care what it makes me look like. It will make him worry about what could cause your plans to be interrupted. He even said next time we will play more PS4 games which indicate that he would come over to my place. I return from vacation only to have him block me on instagram. We still texted but minimally and he came to pick me up midday for food and a little excursion. He don't call me back when he say he will. He cared to tell me he was not interested over coffee, and from hia oint of view what i should stop doing. I am starting to think he is getting in his feelings and needs some time to push them back. I last spoke to him Thursday evening where he told me to have a Good night. I have this guy who has pulled away from me for a while now We truely enjoy being together (out or in bed) but he rarely contacts me while we would just talk 2 or 3 hours a day before that. Well, he went all in messaging me, saying how he could live with my smile forever, he loved me, we should go on holiday together [we hadnt even gone on a date], live together etc etc..he was so full on I backed off bigtime which didnt put him off at all. I respectfully told him that I was going to take a step back and explore other options, wished him the very best in his future ventures, and stopped contact. He stopped talking to you after two months and having sex with you. It feels like hes hiding under a rock and you wont be able to stumble upon him until he decides its time for that. It just hurts cause I really did fall for him and he looked me in my eyes and said how so in love he was. You need to move on with your life. What do you guys think?? I took a long hard look at him and saw him for what he really was and realized I wanted to let him go, that his attitude toward me was undesirable, and that I really couldnt even like him anymore. i am still sad, but feeling much better. things were awesome and we spent two weekend at his place. Im probably never going to have a fling again or a relationship with a guy who just came on holiday :(. I know i was happy with what he sent me. I need to get this guy to ask me out now and see if there is anything between us otherwise this needs to stop. Only he knows the exact reason, and only he can give you the exact one. Had an argument a week before Christmas and I said I was done. This guy isnt man enough to handle the situation like an adult, so youre going to have to be the adult. So I guess I have to move on and get over it. Maybe I missed the signals in the days before he sent me the message, maybe I finally relaxed and felt this was something that was going to last and didnt realise he wasnt on the same page. He came and just didnt wanted talk about relationship bcoz I thought it was over and helped him that day and during dinner he just catched up what he was doing for those 2 months and I told him about me. He is very high up in law enforcement in our city. With me I got kiss and a see you in the morning then he vanished. He returned home and we continue chatting. Take this from someone going through the same. Pretty much all the ones who were so excited and were talking up a storm would be the most likely culprit to suddenly vanish. Eventually my dumb self even went over and slept with him. Amazing actually I try to get past it and feel like he doesnt even find me attractive anymore cuz he tried absolutely nothing with me. On the not texting me until he was ready to see me, on the just flat out ignoring the texts I would send him. and then as he called me again later that day he said and I quote: you know you have teen age boys and I too, I wish you all the best in the world, I will always be there whenever you need me, goodluck and then he left. Its been 20 days since I cut off my communications to him. Why???? The only reason im hurt is because I got what I wanted taken away from me; the perfect looking guy and bang his brains out. I feel that this showed him that I know my worth, that Im not going to play second fiddle, and that if he ever decides to step up to the plate and actually date me for real, I wont tolerate that sort of behavior. And thats how men rationalize their actions. After 4 days straight of messaging about how our days were going, it got flirtier so that by days 5 and 6 there was straight out sexting at my initiation, not his. After a few months of dating I introduced him to my family and he came to my cousin so wedding. Get rid of the trash! Theres one of two things going on here- either hes bipolar/clinically depressed (which does happen believe you me) or he switched his focus to another girl. What do I do? He texts later to say he forgot I was calling and was at the gym and I need to stop overthinking things and relax. He texted me two days later, again to see whether I was available to hang out this week, I had not replied yet since he doesnt take his time to respond to me, at the end of the day I am keeping my options open I might see him this week, but at the other side I am going to see other people as well.. Im sitting here laughing my ass off as to how cray-cray Ive been acting I literally did everything the quiz results advise not to do! ive met this guy in Tinder, we chatted for almost a month, all the time, about everything He said hed love to meet me in person, but I had to go abroad for work for about two weeks, so we planned a date right after that. Well this happened to me on March 5th Me and my boyfriend was dating for five month cause March 4th was our 5th month anniversary, long story short, he was supposed to take me out for dinner but never did because he came up with an excuse saying he has some running around to do,I didnt make a big fuss bout it so I let it go,we planned to go on another day and that day came by and I havent heard from him, and it wasnt like him at all. Date 5 should be coming up soon :). Everything seemed perfect. That way, drunk texting him will be obviously less likely to happen again and you wont have to deal with you regretting stuff you texted him. But then I cant help but think if the call keeps going straight to voicemail (not even one ring)- maybe his phone is just broken/ switched off/ been stolen and he hasnt got it fixed yet? Since, I have went back on FB/LinkedIn and posted a pic of myself and it was almost liberating. Also, read my comments above. so that was last Wednesday night, after dinner we made out at my place and he slept next to me for a few hours before he had to leave. I told him that I NEED to talk to him after having sex so that I wouldnt feel used. It would be a freaking novel, and I cant deal with it. Look at me! All the reasons why guys do this are listed here to help you figure out his silence. For those of you who think you cant move on, you will! I invited him to leave clothes over for convenience because he was staying over often. So stay true to yourself, stay true to your values, be assertive enough to stand up for those values, and thatll put you on the path to the relationship youve always wanted! We texted a little at the start. Why did he string you along? Typical short dicked man mentality. He has always said to me that when he is back from work he will adk me out again or over his way for a meal? I said it took you an hour to talk to your ex. Theyre not the right guy for you, thats all. He wanted to lone wolf it. There. Thanks for sharing a male perspective. When a guy disappears for days, maybe he involved with something and can't tell you right away or he just busy with all of his stuff. I agree with Jujubean, at least he told you now rather than later. Sorry for bad English since its not my mother language. I told him to forget it and just go back to his dinner as he wanted me to text rather than call. He was so nice to me, always looking out for my safety, appeared honest and genuinely caring but we never really had anything exclusive, although I visited him and met his family in France and he came to visit me for a few weeks the last time in Canada. If so, we could go to this great place maybe I can loosen you up a bit. Cause its not fair to lead them on. Currently there is this young and fine co-worker of mine that I like a lot and who likes me even more. The first date went great. He didnt disclose of that until I had to ask him. What you are experiencing is totally what happen to me now. Because I dont think I should, I think you shouldnt talk to him. I normally get over things pretty quickly but this I am having a very hard time with. I just learnt that it is not Im not good enough or He doesnt like me or We are not at good for each other or Its wrong for me to fall for someone who is beyond reach, its just that He is not emotionally available for the moment. If a man does this, he is a total coward. He says yeah he needs to get back to dinner. Remember this. Im contemplating whether to just not say anything and expect another message from him in weeks to a months time, Or to open my mouth and state my opinion (in a nice way). He's not ready for a relationship. As I have mentioned before, after he sent the email asking for a break, I waited ovr week to reply. But they can see Ive no baggage and am just interested in companionship, conversation, and integrity, not necessarily anything heavy, no games. I have been in longterm relationships for much of the last few years, and Im newish to dating again. But was there ever a chance to push past the weirdness after that and make it work or was it doomed from then on? He stopped texting yesterday. I came off like a drunk bitch in front of his acquaintances. I kept kissing him. See? While he may be older that does not bring wisdom. So I figured by the weekend if we were still talking he would want to see me. Anything . He will probably try to call in the middle of the night. But the harsh reality hit me that he has not texted or asked me for almost a week. These girls are actually smart and wise, they are mature in choosing a partner and they love themselves and also let men love them in the deserving way. A few days before, I texted him a hellothen heard nothing. Things are going well. It just drives me crazy not knowing why he stopped contacting me. Blows hot one minute, cold the next. You said it all in the first few sentences: you lost interest. He had disappeared 2 years ago, and we re-connected on the internet (dating site: fgo figure). We did get heavy too quick. It literally makes no sense. Because I am not into chasing people. So I snapchatted him at midnight and then went to sleep. We would text a lot. I so desperately wanted closure, or more, and told him so. Let him know what you want from him. You need to show him that you wont be stuck in one place, waiting for him to make a move. then one day poof he dissappeared. We talk again on the phone for another hour the next night and I am on cloud nine. Hey, Ive got a question. I have felt the beginnings of self doubt and sadness; and even anger. He wanted to know what movie and knew how to keep the convo going which was a total switch from the last guy I dated who just let things die while talking on the phone or in text. The only reason why I do that is because I feel comfortable with him. He has yet to say I love you back. I feel so stupid sometimes cause deep down I want to hear from him. until he started saying i love you, I miss you,,, again, but I wasnt taking him seriously (I was like is that so? and blabla). I will never in my life talk to a person like that again. Throw it away, set it on fire, mail it back to him if you really want to make sure he gets it, but dont contact him. He is choosing to not respond to you. Things were great even talking about moving in together after i return from a 2weeks vacation just this month. Fortunately for him he looks like he has already found someone else in 3 weeks!!! after few months, that i spent whole weekdays texting and weekends on skype, i found very cheap flight tickets so i suggested the visit. I care about me and my personal wellbeing. He wants his way, it was a test for me to see if he continues texting and try to talk me into calling him like he always does. Have you contacted him again? We had been dating for 4 months and everything was good. 3 Months is a lot of time and there should be at least a modicum of trust and comfort built up by then. No way! Its just not fair. We went out on a friday and I talked to him 2 days later on a Sunday when we made arrangements to see each other the next day. For young people in their 20s, think if they behave like this when its just the two of you supposedly all hot for each other and they cant handle emotions or respect you properly, what will their melt down be like when real life happens, like being married, raising children, managing household finances, caring for your parents in their final years. Hello, Ive been dealing with the remorse of my recent actions in my relationship. I have seen myself getting most affected whenever I was in a relationship. I just really dont get it. We met up for a cup of coffee and here is the funny thing :P I still laugh about it till now, even though it was 10 months ago! ) Day Three: You know that if you contact him again you will appear desperate, so you wait another day before attempting to contact him again. Then he wished me happy birthday. I would put the odds of there being a problem with him at around 10%. I asked him his schedule for the week and when we could get together (knowing I had the intention of asking him in person what was going on)and he just ignored the question and talked about his work. If I still dont hear from him for awhile, is it a terrible idea to send him a casual hey havent heard from you in awhile hows everything? type of text? Yes, he used to do things I liked, but now he could care less. Then he asked me to join him for thanksgiving dinner with his family. He got back to me and told me that he loved me and always will, but he had reconciled with his wife, and she was now pregnant. He probably thinks someone hit on me or something and got mad and was going to punish me good. An Aries guy loves it when a woman compliments him, so you can attract him to you by showering him with praise. Until he finally realizes that this behavior wont get him anywhere, he wont be able to commit to just one woman. so a week went by he didnt contact I contacted him he said he didnt know, blah, blah then a week after he said he didnt want to see anyone for now. Do you know what a stock option is? He called me a couple of days after I posted this haha (kinda drunk) and told me he really missed me and loved me but I was just like Im sleeping, we talk later (obviously It didnt happen). Later that evening though he was a bit different. Was there any girl or behaviour that you reacted differently? Please save yourself further heartache and move on. I was so happy those 2 weeks and silly me thought that maybe this could be the start of something good . Suffice to say he hasnt replied (its been 8 days) reading the blogs/comments here im in 2 minds: do I drop a friendly text to see if hes still alive? So it seemed as if he didnt want me to leave. High school ended and I knew it was best to cut all the ties just like that to eas the seperation pain. We agreed to be a friends with benefits type thing which I was way ok with. He tried visiting me a couple of times. I wasnt that into him in the beginning but he was really chasing and really I will say earned my attention. She could not understand this, I mean she seemed supportive but our relationship could not go on, she kept making plans and asking me to do this and that, when all I had in my head was that I needed all my focus and attention on my health. 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